As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kate Hallock. As you learn about Kate, her husband, and their process for undertaking the first Enneagram mystery novel, Nine Ways to Die: An Enneagram Murder Mystery, we also have a mystery to solve together right on air! Join us here to examine what type Kate and her husband are for a chance to win a copy of Kate's novel and one of our mystery dinner games!

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. However, the intensity of love can also have negative effects on the activity within the brain. On the podcast, we demystify the brain and practically hack our way through the best ways we can allow our thinking and activities to support us in our goals together! Join Christa with an exclusive look at how to boost your brain with healthy hacks as we sit at the feet of neuroscientist Dr. Krissy Thomas, Ph.D, Enneagram Three. It's a powerful and fun episode as we dissect the very best ways to boost your joy and life together!

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your meta-communication. In fact, if conflicts aren't addressed, they'll continue to control you from under the surface of your vices. On this brand new episode just for you, we are making the goal-getting deep and meaningful but also fun and practical with #1 rated marriage podcast experts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage joining us. Christa first takes you briefly through the Enneagram system type by type vices so you can detect which issues you’re likely struggling with bringing into conflict and then we’ll leave it to Tony and Alisa to show us their creative and very helpful structure for processing conflict together better than ever before.

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they will influence marriage and sexual relationships with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7. We take both a microscopic and wide lens view of generational practices around sexual and faith norms across generations, from prior to Gen X to purity culture and now, there's still work to do around healthy teaching and training and we have the best tips for you!

As we begin to refine our goals together this month, we're covering the area of sexual intimacy right off the bat with the wonderful sex educator you always wish you had, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS! Carlie runs the popular Instagram account @theChristianSexEducator to teach people who may not have been given healthy tools about sex the chance to build beautiful intimacy together. We talk about sexual mindfulness, purity culture, low libido, differences in desire, and how we can build up sexual desire together if it's low, in seasons of raising kids, and how sharing the load helps this area to be managed well! Carlie has SO many resources on and off the air including 20 questions to ask your spouse about sex, guides for engaged and newlywed couples, and The Women-Tell-All Learning to Orgasm Guide. Listen up!

What's preventing you from reaching your goals, from thriving personally, relationally, or at work? It's often so more than just circumstantial, but something you could actually get a handle on by increasing your emotional intelligence quotient with the Enneagram of personality, including your Enneagram instincts, defense strategies, triads, core fears, and more. Scott Allender, Enneagram 3 (3-4 pairing), is here to talk about all of this with us as you take steps to move your life, business, or family into a healthier direction with his deep dive into this truly next-level Enneagram training so you can truly thrive with newfound energy and goals! Tune in to hear about his brand new book, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, and learn with us about how you can truly find your way through the biggest blocks to purposes you're meant for.

So many individuals and couples depend on faith for life's sustenance as well as a purposeful call together in relationships, and yet many times there are often so many faith or cultural disillusionments that send us far away from the rhythms of life wrapped up with God and communities of faith, especially at this precarious moment in culture wars. Prolific author Sara Billups, Enneagram 4 (4-5 pairing) invites us into a deep and curious dive into the past as well as movements for going forward in culture with meaningful, compassionate, and justice-oriented faith rhythms in her brand new book Orphaned Believers: How a Generation of Christian Exiles Can Find Their Way Home, that we talk about together today with you.

Grief hits us all at times - as a world, as a community, and yes, even as leaders, helpers, pastors, parents, or spouses. When grief and the ensuing life-changing rhythms and questions move us to new spaces that our friends, families, and often spouses, cannot fully navigate, what can do we do? And when faith questions arise, where can we go? In other words, you must give your loss and sadness a healthy space to process so you can both honor your story as well as emerge when the time is right for new life and hope again and again. Join us for this very special episode together as we do this very thing with psychologist and Tedx speaker Dr. Mekel Harris, PhD, Enneagram 4w3 as she shares from both the space of personal loss and her own expertise as a grief therapist with tools for us as well.

Whenever we approach spiritual growth, we look for roots in hurt or pain. Where have we gone off track with God and how does this distance or these wounds affect our relationships? In this new series on digging deep for faith individually and/or as couples, we ask hard questions - questions everyone has asked at some point but may not always feel are heard. We welcome powerful speaker, writer, and influencer at Proverbs 31 Ministries, author Kia Stephens as we discuss one of the key questions surrounding faith - what to do when there’s a father wound. Though Kia’s book has a special sensitivity around the huge amount of research detailing that many women have a father wound, this is a conversation all will want to take in if they have a father wound or they have a spouse who has one!

Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well and we can live in survival mode for a long time. However, walking to freedom and safety on the other side is not only the goal, but it's accessible and present. Today we are grateful to have acclaimed trauma specialist and author Aundi Kolber, LMHC of Try Softer sharing her brand new book, Strong Like Water as we learn the way to more fluidly and safely process trauma. She offers us tips for individuals and couples as we learn the way to resiliency and ultimately to becoming strong like water together.

When we don’t have a healthy foundation or direction for exploring conflict well together, things tend to fall apart and keep falling apart - conflict management is essential as we have been discussing all month. On this deeper dive into conflict, we are joined by author Jackie Brewster as she walks us through her practical, hands-on brand new 7-week workbook on using extremely practical and organized Enneagram tools and tips to help you grow personally and heal these threads of discord between you.

Psychologist Dr. Wyatt has an important mission: to reduce the divorce rate one marriage at a time and today on the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, he does just that. As one of the leading marriage and relationships podcasters, today we are in for a treat as he vulnerably shares not only from an objective clinical lens but from a visceral empathy from his own marriage trauma healing over seasons as well. As we study conflict together all month, this episode gives you a very practical look at shaping your marriage healthily through one of Dr. Wyatt's nine tools - the five-minute, small but mighty "Bullseye" tool so you can get moving in a healthy direction right away!

Join us for a deep dive into a relationship chat on our repressed centers of intelligence, or stances, with Suzanne Stabile, best-selling author, speaker, and Master Enneagram teacher (The Road Back to You, The Path Between Us, The Journey Toward Wholeness). Suzanne shares her wisdom from connecting with thousands of families and across thirty-five years of marriage, offering honest advice for marriage success. As we discuss changing instincts across seasons and a conversation about our stances or repressed Centers of Intelligence, we increasingly learn to balance thinking, feeling, and doing with more consistency and balance with intention.

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about marriage with each of the types but for you to experience sitting with a person of each personality type as well. Join us for a cup of coffee and convo as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing writer, teacher, and master organizer, Laurie Palau, Enneagram Type 8 of This Organized Life about all the super big questions you've always wanted to ask an Eight as well as a few tips about her very 8 way of bringing clarity and order to a sometimes overwhelmed family with her worldwide business!

Join us for a cup of coffee and convo as we drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing an Enneagram Type 9 speaker and coach, Emily Wingfield, about all the nitty gritty Nine issues you've been wondering about such as marriage and family with a 9, withdrawing, merging, past orientation, action/sloth, and so much more!

As we explore romance together, one of the most important ways we can connect hearts together is by really understanding the deepest needs of our spouse. As we walk through today's episode with Dani Cooper, certified Enneagram teacher, author, and coach for individuals, couples, and teams, (and 1-6 marriage pairing with her hubby Sean), we get clarifying reminders about what each personality type really ultimately delights in receiving in terms of their deepest needs. Don't miss this heartfelt episode and fun episode even as we gently challenge one another to the most bountiful kinds of love!

We begin a month of romance with our fresh and fun first February guest relationship coach Dana Che, Enneagram 3! Dana is witty, articulate, hilarious, and fun, and she has not only been coaching couples for practically forever, but she's down to earth and able to be honest about her journey of depth here with us as well. Join Dana as she brings us all into our goal-oriented 3 space by loving our partner with intention, an open heart, and lots of loving action!

In this darkest time of the year, it's so important we have good ways to wrestle with the things keeping us from hope, from faith, and from light. In this episode, Jesse Eubanks of Love Thy Neighborhood and The Enneacast remains us that empathy is one of the key ingredients of deep trust with God and others as he joins us for an important discussion on how Christ relates to each of the Enneagram types as we discuss his brand new Harper-Collins Zondervan book, How We Relate: Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram. Join us for this important conversation on moving into this important space together individually and in relationship now!

When we agree to vows to support one another in sickness and in health, we want to be able to provide one another a safe space to heal as well as a safe space to grow a healthier immune system. We interview Coach Jenn Johnson, Enneagram One, trained by Dr. Hyman's Institute for Integrative Nutrition, who is also an E + M Certified Coach, and she not only helps us to honor our marriage vows during times of sickness but also helps us to create a winning, research-based formula for immunity-building, one tiny habit at a time together!

Join E + M Certified Coach and trauma-informed polyvagal specialist and marriage helper Jessica Vangsnes, of the 4-8 pairing on today's E + M Pod. Jessica walks you through practical and peaceful steps to bringing healing to your body this month as we continue our journey through wellness in the New Year. Christa and Jessica also discuss Jessica and her husband Travis' (4-8 pairing) peaceful mountain retreat center in East TN for couples!

Our second week of the New Year brings your brightest and best in the bedroom to the together as we discuss the 5 main sexual love languages in your marriage. In this episode, Christa not only shares some insights type by type sexually but also walks you through five love styles sexually, offering you tips to bring you back to the most intimate times together yet!

We open Season Five of the E + M Podcast as Christa walks you through five habits that have been life-giving and life-changing for her and invites you into healthy rhythms for your new year.

When the holiday stress arises and you need to just relax, there’s nothing more fun than hanging out together and talking about Christmas movies and the Enneagram! Join this casual convo with Christa and guest Amy Wicks of Wholehearted Enneagram and get double the type 7 joy and fun as we invite you into a full-out convo about both holiday Rom-Coms While You Were Sleeping and Elf, Enneagram style! And yes we did classify Elf as a rom-com for this TOTALLY carefree and fun time with you!

Though each member in a couple can balance one another out as we give to one another, there are also certain ways we crash together in terms of our head, heart, and body centers. This E + M listener-requested mini-podcast helps us to not only avoid predictable pitfalls when we consider the tendencies of the Enneagram types merging with one another across and within the heart, heart, and body triads, but also to find our way to healthier connection and vulnerability together!

So many times, we don’t realize that the parental overlays from our first few years of development have laid a foundation that runs deeper than we can imagine. In this mini episode, Christa runs through the dysregulation patterns of each Enneagram type just in time for the holidays so you can make sure that you are not only aware of potential connection disruptions, but also truly prepared for the very best times together in life and marriage!

When the holidays get busy, it can be so easy to get lost in the shuffle of the tyranny of the urgent. However, without intention, you not only won't merge your Enneagram gifts to find your best and brightest ways to glow in the world, but worse, you can fall into the shadows. Join Christa for this mini that includes a brief writing exercise as well to get you fired up and focused together out there as you shine!

Are you feeling alone in your grief or even just stuck this season? Join Christa for a therapeutic journey of discovering ways of processing grief, learning to lament and move ahead, and honoring the story within.

How can you best shine together this holiday? This episode is not only a safeguard against stress and struggle over the holiday maritally, but it's an important shortie episode for you to remember the best ways to show up for your partner so you truly get your glow on together! Listen to tips for each type so you can remember the tips with all the various pivots across type, wing, arrow, and more that you each take all through the holidays for your very best together!

Types Two, Seven, and Nine stay as positive as possible and as such there are some extremely important reminders as you learn to walk through your love life with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Two, Seven, and Nine to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!

Types Four, Six, and Eight are quite passionate and as such there are some extremely important lessons to find - and keep - love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Four, Six, and Eight to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!

Types One, Three, and Five are quite logical and as such there are some extremely important straightforward ways to finding love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types One, Three, and Five to give you a practical and simple shortie relational boost!

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 1, 4, and 7, create patterns of idealistic expectations that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 1, 4, and 7, and the ways they can bypass the realities and deep connections of marriage, in favor of seeking impossible ideals. Check the last two Wednesday for the other six types in marriage!

In our attempts to attach with our spouses and family, we often drop on the styles of our earliest years. Join Christa in a deeper dive episode as we delve into the heart of the disorganized attachment style in marriage. We also share tips as well as a special practice you can do at the end if you’re struggling with the intensity and self-doubt that often comes with this type of attachment work. In order to learn more about this attachment at large, make sure you check out the attachmentproject.com

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 2, 5, and 8, create patterns of rejecting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 2, 5, and 8, and the ways they can reject nurturing and accidentally bring out something they fear most, rejection from the ones they love. Stay tuned for the other types!

For many, a marriage or close relationship with addiction is the norm, and yet life with an addicted partner is not only not the ideal, but is often a source of chaos, negativity, emotional upheaval, and worse, sometimes for generations on end. Join Christa in this special episode with Dr. Deborah Russo, Psy.D, who has a specialty in working with couples and addictions. Dr. Russo shares clarified great hope and tips for those walking on this often lonely and misunderstood road.

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Nine in marriage and family life!

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Eight in marriage and family life!

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Seven in marriage and family life!

As Amazon Prime releases the new Lord of the Rings prequel, The Rings of Power, it's time for the merging of the worlds and a trek into Middle Earth for a special episode discussing JRR Tolkien's LOTR trilogy as well as having some fun Enneagram typing the fictional characters as well.

Today's podcast offer both a personal and a collective experience for empowered healthy fitness lifestyle habits. Christa is joined by Sarah Thomas of Burn Fat and Feast, an Enneagram 1 (1-8 Glow). Sarah not only shares her hard journey from the college weigh-ins to truly empowered living with less of a focus on the scale. She has helped thousands to find their way back to abundant and strong eating rhythms. Instead of body shaming, we emerge from this month stronger for our marriages and families together!

When you're struggling with healthy eating or extra weight, we know the last thing you need is to be shamed. However, your life and relationship is ever so much stronger when you feel good. What better way to learn about feeling good, hormones, and the body than from a detailed Enneagram who Type 1 who holds all of this with us and comes from a place of abundance? Join us on today's E + M Pod with accredited Health Coach Jenn Johnson! She is awesome at sharing life-changing health and fitness tips you won't want to miss for anything!

We are indeed better spouses when we're energized and following a healthy fitness and eating routine, but let's face it, sometimes we simply need someone to cheer us on, someone who knows both Enneagram + Health Coaching. Today we are delighted to be joined by the fabulous health coach Myrna Cervetti, Enneagram 1, of Enneagram & Health (@Enneahealth on Instagram). If you need inspiration and hope for the journey, we give an added boost to each and every Enneagram type together!

As we lean into our health and fitness focus on the podcast this month, Christa takes an interview-style approach with her husband Wes, a specialist in family medicine, who has helped thousands of families with their healthcare needs across seasons of life and marriage. Make sure you tune in to this important discussion of getting and staying as healthy as possible together for your own happily ever after!

As we pause to reflect on all of the growth of the seasons past, we transition to new spaces with spiritual growth in mind. Christa is joined by author Meredith W. Boggs, Type Eight as we stop for some soul care. Meredith walks us through not only the virtues and essence of each Enneagram type, but also three of the most helpful spiritual practices for each of the Enneagram types as well. As we focus on growth, take a listen to this deep dive into practices you can take into your life, marriage, parenting, and friendships as well.

Join us for our final episode in the July sex series with the wonderful Chris and Jamie Bailey of Expedition Marriage. Christa brings the hard but most important questions to Chris and Jamie about the journey to the most satisfying intimate experiences of a couple's life, and their life as a 9 and 6 on the Enneagram also. We are so happy to share this episode with you as not only do Chris and Jamie share the best of their marriage but they also share life lessons they've needed to learn along the way, tips you don't want to miss for your marriage either!

Have you wondered how your survival instincts affect your sex life or lack of intimacy as a couple? The instincts are undoubtedly relevant as we talk with Enneagram researcher and sexpert, Sam E. Greenberg, Enneagram 5 about how you can grow together as you work to understand one another's ways of staying feeling loved, close, and safe in the world. Sam and Christa go over both the basics as well as the depths of each of the instincts and how you as partners can relax enough in your instincts together to enjoy a mutually pleasurable intimacy life together. Tune in as you find one another's very best together!

So many times couples aren't on the same page about sex and often it's due to one or both lacking desire. Find out four root causes that lead couples and especially women away from desiring sex in marriage as well as ways you can shine brightly not only in the world together but also in the bedroom. Join Christa as she brings not only clarity but also competency when it comes to healing the intimacy gaps in your relationship.

Tune in to hear how masculine and feminine energy affect your marriage and your life!

How do you not only build but keep intimacy and adventures over the long years of marriage? We talk real marriage tips today, not just during the honeymoon period with the world's number one marriage podcast hosts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of the One Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. Join Christa with guests Tony and Alisa as they take us on a deep dive into their marriage story, adventures, and share the 6 essential pillars of intimacy building! (Hint, you need them all!)

After the honeymoon period of marriage, it's so important that couples work together to turn their dreams into reality together. Whatever your pairing, we're happy to get great tips from Enneagram & Marriage Jenn and her husband Rob today, who are part of the 1-3 Pairing. They're also taking us on a deep dive into bringing health into your adventures and life together since Jenn's a health coach with awesome tips for all!

What do you do when you've got two opposite temperaments system in your marriage or relationship? One of Christa's favorite mentors, Dr. Sharon Otis, PhD, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Glow), is here for the task of telling you how she's done it and how you can do it too! With positivity through tremendous trials, with grace, and with lots of love, Sharon is here with joy, hope, and the wisdom of fifty years of working with family systems. This is a #lifer episode you don't want to miss!

This special anniversary episode with Christa and Wes as they go over the very best and worst of adventuring together in marriage. You'll get tips for how to plan for as well as to enjoy your marriage and plan for amazing adventures together as we open up the month of June and hear from various couples and individuals about how to plan the adventures of a lifetime together! Join us for this special anniversary episode with us!

Let's take the mystery out of what makes for a great couple pairing. Today Christa is joined by Dana and Johnny Lawsom who are #goals for so many in their community because of their beautiful love story. Enjoy this light-hearted, fun episode, trying to guess their couple pairing along the way!

Join Christa in a brief convo and exercises in addressing and discharging jealousy that arises as we do our work with intention. Jealousy is often an under-discussed issue in achieving marriage and life goals. Listen in to learn how to deal with and manage jealousy in healthy ways!

Join Christa for a brief journey and a sharing of wisdom gained through the narratives of biblical characters who struggled with the same instinctual issues as we do in life and marriage. When you're stuck in a rut, it's often helpful to hear how someone else worked through something, and the ancient stories in the Bible truly bring the instinctual lens home to us!

In this E + M Shorts episode, Christa brings us a visual of each of the enneagram types coming together as a collective to make a beautiful event, and in this case, a party! As you will hear, every single type is needed to make the project or process the very best and as we open the doors to our new E + M Collective, we hope you will bring your type to the E + M Glow adventure together!

The E + M Collective Membership, an Enneagram + Marriage Membership is OPEN! Founder's pricing only till June 1, 2022 and membership doors close June 14, 2022! We have a dynamic relationship training mini-course inside for you to find your glow together, exclusive marriage PDFS for you, monthly live Zoom trainings with Christa, and a FB group that opens June 1 also as we come together to shine out in the world.

Have you wondered about how the Enneagram can be used while your dating? Do you know about healthy attachment styles?

Then listen in as we look for the missing pieces of ourselves if we’re trying to find a soulmate or connect to our spouses better if we're already married. But if we're not healthy ourselves in our attachment styles, will this really help? In our desperation to make the best match, we often miss doing some of our own work. Join Christa and guest "The Date Doctor Christie", Dr. Christie Kederian, EdD, MFT who has paired the Enneagram with the healthiest dating and long-term attachment strategies both for those who are married and for those seeking a mate as well!