“The E + M podcast has given me such wonderful insight not only on myself and how to take care of my self love but also, how my 5 husband operates. We are both able to go a different way about things within our marriage, it has been such a positive change. You’re doing such wonderful things for people! 💗” - Katie, Type 9

The Enneagram & Marriage Podcast

 

The Enneagram + Marriage Podcast is focused on educating listeners on how they can work through their relationship issues using the Enneagram and other marriage and relationship tools. Christa Hardin brings her experience helping couples for two decades to engage the E + M audience as fellow peers on the journey of life and love as she teaches and brings guests on to share as well! Tune in to learn what the Enneagram can and can’t help you with, what the best marriage research is teaching us, and how to understand your unique personality in terms of relationship dynamics, as well as how to find encouragement as you intentionally integrate healthy change in your marriage and life.

Relationship coach, Christa Hardin has a background in clinical psychology and the E+M Podcast specifically and practically yet empathically touches on topics like connecting over just communication, learning you/your spouse's conflict styles, understanding revolutionary sexual intimacy tips, and how you and your spouse can shine or "Enneagram Glow" together as a team in your romance as well as in the world as part of a bigger and more meaningful collective. Start your week off on the right foot with a new episode every Monday of the Enneagram + Marriage Podcast on Apple, Spotify, Amazon, Castbox, and platforms episodes. We’ve got over 1 million downloads and counting of our 100+ episodes!

All About Enneagram 4s in Relationship

Fours are considered the Individualists or the Romantics of the Enneagram. Why do Fours seem to delve into places of shame and sorrow more quickly than others, and why is there so much variety and stereotyping going on with them as well? What are they like in marriage, and most importantly, what can they do to be at the best individually and in their families and relationships? Join in for a talk on all things beloved Enneagram 4 including wings, subtypes, and type-by-type relationship pairings!

 
 

Around the Table Part II: w/ Guest Dietician
& PA, Stacey Day, Enneagram 2

This week as we wrap up our Around the Table segment, join Christa going through her research findings and chatting with her first official guest, her best friend Stacey Day, a dietician and PA-C. It's been so wonderful to conduct research and to spend time learning about how so many individuals and types have formed food preferences, food issues, and couple bonds over the course of their lives and relationships. They discuss couples tips for the long haul and also how friendship and food can carry you through so many beautifully memorable times if you open yourself up to it. Most importantly, how your marriage and family can truly thrive in both your most intimate and special everyday moments with food.

Around the Table: The Role of Eating Together for Healthy Marriages

In this episode, you'll get encouragement and learn how to talk about and address food issues in your marriage, season by season. Research tells us ways we plan for or initiate and carry out our eating rituals in our families and cultures matter. Food together in marriage and family has such potential to either help or hurt your communication. You're also getting a great tool for conversations around your table!

 
 

All About Enneagram 3s in Relationship

Fresh from the vault of pre-COVID times comes our "All About Enneagram 3s in Relationship" episode! Though our voices are a bit lighter in earlier 2020 times, the content you'll find for loving and living with your Enneagram 3 is just as rich and deep as you would hope. Enjoy this episode so you learn more about this secretly romantic and deeply vulnerable (under the stylish and bold exterior) heart type with the absolute best you have to give!

Choosing to Celebrate Together:
Anniversary Episode

Happy events in our lives and marriages deserve to be celebrated, and not just at the end of the road, but at important milestones too. In this episode, join Christa as she talks about various personality trappings for your types and hers, and especially how celebrating the amazing journey along the way changes your life for the better. Research, media, and personal examples all converge to tell us the same thing - the stories you tell about your marriage and the actions you take in it matter - a lot! Don't miss this opportunity to celebrate well together as you step into a fresh new moment of your life lived with intention.

 
 

Technology Troubles (& Tips) for Marriage w/
All Enneagram Types

Marriages are in danger of losing connection more than ever due to literally constant tech use & interruptions. The research we gathered over quarantine shows that phones are getting out of control and communication is suffering. Listen to why tech is particularly addicting, what types suffer most, and how it's hurting you even if you don't realize it. We also share seriously vital tips you need in order to stay tuned not just to social media but to your most important relationship!

Healing Attachment Wounds in Marriage
and Culture

Join Christa in a conversation about the importance of compassion, listening, empathy, and specific steps for healing trauma wounds in a marriage using the Enneagram. These steps bring success to a large degree and are the hallmark of healing difficult moments - together. Tune in for the three steps in healing attachment wounds as a couple, and stick around or our free resource for regaining balance in your marriage as well.

 
 

4-Second Start and Stop Behaviors Every Marriage Needs

Can a few seconds really make a difference in the life of a person, a marriage, a culture? The answer is a resounding yes, and in light of what's been happening in culture lately with the instability, the quarantine and the racial tragedies, it's the very best time to bring life and healing to your marriage, family, and community. Starting with a prayer and some tips for what you can do about what's happening around us today, and listening to this entire strategy-packed episode, will help you to find your way back to health presence and practice today!

Transforming Through Trials, Grief,
and Loss Together

Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own grief at each stage with tons of useful marriage and personal tips! We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes? Get tons of practical and heartfelt tips for each stage of grief!

 
 

The Big 3 Issues in Marriage: Part 3 | Sex

Listen in as Christa uses the Enneagram to openly discuss sexual needs and desires, as well as the ways they have been stifled, shamed, and overexposed. This episode is critical for you to listen to on your own or with your partner. Then you can get started on the road to your most amazing and sacred intimate life together with tons of practical tips and research you don't want to miss!

The Big 3 Issues in Marriage: Part 2 | Finances

Whatever their socioeconomic status, couples continue to report that arguing about finances is one of the three biggest issues in their marriages. In this vital episode, we're talking about the effects of financial infidelity as well as finding your wise and authentic financial voice. Start now on integrating your own budget as we share our weekly tools and more from financial gurus across the globe! Most importantly, you'll learn how couples struggle with their finances and how to overcome their challenges together.

 
 

Mini Episode: When to Come Out of Quarantine, Together

Couples we're surveying are talking about a new topic of communication that's currently at hand. The question is about when and how to individually and jointly emerge from quarantine, especially where there's disagreement. When survival is at stake, what and who gives? Join in for this special midweek mini-edition of the podcast in a conversation about how we can still live and work together with our spouses in a loving manner even when we differ about this important and deeply relevant marriage and family topic.

The Big 3 Issues in Marriage: Part 1 | Communication

Tired of running around the same marriage stumbling blocks? Join us for this episode where we tackle not just the rhetoric but the actual roadblocks of marriage communication issues! Whatever your Enneagram type, there are some tried-and-true methods for getting through to your spouse that will enrich your relationship for a lifetime!

 
 

The Parenting Tendencies of Each Enneagram Type

Just how does your Enneagram type inform your parenting at best and at worst? This is a special episode that's full of grace for parents, and one that we're finally releasing from the pre-quarantine time capsule! We hope you take some time this Mother's Day weekend and beyond to both explore and to embrace the fun and the learning lessons of each Enneagram type, both from your own days as kids and to reflect on your own parenting style. We know you want to be the best parent possible, whatever your type!

Important Routines for Every Type in Marriage

Even if you're an assertive type and you don't like to be controlled by another person, human relationships need not only connections, but routines together to thrive, especially married couples. Don't worry, however, routines can be varied and fun! Listen as we go over the vital habits you need to continually establish so you can find or re-find your best routine vibes both individually and together, whatever your Enneagram type! We're also including info about a special freebie and a marriage training opportunity for pastors, counselors, and coaches!

 
 

Creating Healthy Emotional Self Care for Each Enneagram Type

Tune in to hear about the importance of emotional self-care for each Enneagram type. Listen to hear how Christa and the couples she's been working with have been taking steps to get more in touch with their hearts. Get tips on both your type and your spouse's type to have better emotional self-care for yourself and your marriage!

How Your Fitness Level Affects Your Marriage and Your Enneagram Type

Join Christa for a compelling conversation as we talk all things Enneagram and fitness! This week's research has shown cutting edge tips for staying as healthy as possible during COVID-19. In addition to wearing your PPE, we've learned getting through this harrowing virus has everything to do with your fitness levels! You'll learn how you, whatever type you are, can not only improve your own fitness life but also steer your marriage toward life and balance as well!

 
 

The 9 Enneagram Types in Spirituality
and Marriage

Tune in as Christa creatively guides you through helpful tools and tips for each Enneagram type on their spiritual journey. Chances are, your faith has evolved over the years and that your marriage has also been influenced. She offers some tips to stay connected as a couple even if you differ spiritually or just at different points. This episode is truly for everyone to wants to grow in their marriages and their spirituality!

Marriage With the 9 Types During Quarantine

When quarantine guarantees an unquestionably long time together with your partner, what can you do to keep things not only healthy but also safe? Join us for an important conversation about each type in stress and ways to strategize with your partner so you both land in a safe place of wellness for the duration of the quarantine and beyond. Christa explores not only each type in stress but also highlights a strategy for a healthy rising up to the call of your unique gifts as well. Don't miss out!

 
 

Learning from The Enneagram Anxiety Triad During COVID-19

Listen in for amazing tips on managing anxiety by Enneagram type as an individual as well as a spouse, and learning to differentiate normal anxiety from a paralyzing disorder. Some people spend their entire lives preparing for emergency and when it comes, they find themselves more than equipped to handle the problems. Others of us find ourselves in a whirlwind of emotions we need help processing, sometimes falling apart for a little while. Listen also for special tips for managing coronavirus anxiety as well, including a peaceful relaxation exercise to get you grounded no matter what anxiety you're facing right now!

Up Close & Personal with Christa's Husband, Wes, Enneagram 1?

Join us for this special episode as host Christa Hardin and her guest, her husband Wes, Enneagram 1, get serious as well as laugh as they contemplate their relationship and whether he's actually been a 3 all this time. This is a special peek into a twenty-four year long relationship and especially relevant if you're someone who wonders about your non-Enneagram obsessed spouse or someone who just want an inner look at another couple's Enneagram + Marriage story!

 
 

SPECIAL EP: Connection During COVID-19

During times of local or national stress, couples often become more conflicted that ever. With the world shutdown and Coronavirus upon us, we need each other more than ever so we can stay connected and in healthy control of the things we need to manage well, namely our families. Join us in the special episode where Christa gives your relationship the boost it needs to withstand the pressures of right now, using tools from past critical moments in time, Enneagram insights, and more!

Seasons of Marriage & All 9 Enneagram Types

Listen to this important episode to learn what you in your Enneagram type can expect over the beginning, middle, and later stages of marriage as you make the important decision to grow love. Couples often approach their marriage with eyes of hope and excitement for how their spouse will heal their wounds. This isn’t a faulty approach, as we do help one another to heal. However, when we expect spouses to heal all of our own wounds, most of which started long before marriage, we are let down. Get the tips and advice you need for each season of marriage!

 
 

Females & the Enneagram

Women are stereotyped as being more emotional than men and our surveys showed that feelings types were indeed much more prevalent with females than males. Join us as we talk about the large number of compliant and withdrawing women we surveyed and especially as we help these types and all types to find their voice in marriage! As we celebrate International Women’s Day this week you don’t want to miss being part of the conversation on how females can increasingly thrive in marriage and relationships!

All About Enneagram 2s in Relationship

We're chatting about our lovely Enneagram 2s in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of 2s but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways 2s, who love to give and to love the world can keep up all that helping from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the subtype and some common strengths and issues each of the other types has in relation to their dear Enneagram 2!

 
 

Enneagram Typing & Your Favorite Shows

SPECIAL FUN EPISODE: We're taking you through a laid-back, all-in-fun typing episode of your favorite show characters! Let's face it, we've all wanted to slap Enneagram labels on our favorite TV relationship characters a time or two, right? Some of them we can even proudly relate to while others make us cringe at the realization that yes, we are a little like the worst ones at times. Join us in our back and forth banter as we playfully type who you told us you love on The Office, Parks & Rec, and Gilmore Girls!

Males & the Enneagram

One of the most important aspects of any typing system is understanding that males and females are indeed somewhat different both socially and biologically and thus often have differing prevalent personality features. In this episode we share some fascinating collective research on common male patterns in typing as well as the results of two hundred males surveyed on IG. Most importantly, we've got essential tips for how males of all types can both grow and thrive in relationships.

 
 

All About Enneagram 1s in Relationship

We're chatting about all things Enneagram 1 in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of 1s but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways 1s, who love to bring order and goodness to the world, can continue to operate within their high standards from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the type, wings, stress and health points, and perhaps most fun for spouses, some common connection points each of the other types has in relation to the beloved Enneagram 1 in their life.

Reaching Romantic Depths for Each Enneagram Type

As we move into Valentine’s Day weekend we’re talking about all things romance and the Enneagram! Whether you approach the world from your head, heart, or body, we’re covering how to go the distance with all things romance for each type and triad. Don’t miss out on this inclusive special episode where we lead you towards what we hope is an amazing romantic reconnection with the love of your life!

 
 

Enneagram Stances and Getting Healthier in Your Conflict Style

Aggressive, Withdrawing, Compliant…Depending on your Enneagram type, you’re probably prone to any one of these in relation to your partner, especially during a heated battle. In this episode, we examine both the strengths and the cautionary tales of all three styles and discover ways to make your own tendency not only more palatable in marriage but also less pathological. This must-hear episode also finishes by opening the door to our course for those needing more personalized help with energizing their relationship.

Healthy Personal Identity in Marriage

In this episode, we talk about the concepts of leaning in to make sure you're listening to and loving your spouse well but also that you're balancing your own self-care and personality with it. Being your authentic best self is a key contributor to the energy and lifeblood of marriage and family health. We're also sharing an invitation to a very special upcoming coaching opportunity geared toward energizing your relationship!

 
 

Feeling Safe Together: Understanding and Negotiating Enneagram Instincts in Relationship

We all want to feel safe and yet sometimes marriage rips open our vulnerability in a way that nothing else can. Whether you lean towards self-preservation, social, or an intimate way of feeling safe instinctually, tuning in to this episode will lead you on a mission toward a healthier balance and an understanding of how you can best love a spouse or partner who differs from you in their own quest for safety.

The 9 Enneagram Types in Marriage: The Ups, Downs, & In-Betweens

Join in the fun as we briefly review each Enneagram type in the individual and marriage setting! Hear your type’s strengths, hardships, and redeeming qualities too, so you can make sure your aim is on point for your very best in marriage and in life!

 
 

Debunking Marriage Myths Using the Enneagram

In this week's episode, Christa Hardin explores and disproves popular marriage myths. From identifying Enneagram types that work well together, to learning how to manage expectations within marriage based on your type, this episode will answer your burning questions and will show how the Enneagram can help in various life situations.

Welcome to the Enneagram + Marriage Podcast!

In this inaugural episode, Christa Hardin, MA, shares about the purpose of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, her background in clinical psychology, how the E and M Instagram came to be, why the Enneagram is so important, and more.