Dr. Camden Morgante of the 9-6 Glow Pairing joins Christa to talk about both her pairing as well as her specialty of sex therapy. Many couples struggle in the sexual arena and today we take a different angle. Tune in to talk with us about some of the most painful and perplexing moments most couples walk through, including ED, pain and trauma in the bedroom, and more!
We're joined today by Dr. Steve and Lisa Call of the Reconnect Institute, 3-4 Glow pairing and a beautiful heart dyad, who help us to reconnect to one another's hearts in beautiful ways. We're often so quick to grab our phones, work the extra hours, and totally forget about the best reasons for marriage, healing and play together. Sometimes there are deeper roots of connection we've lost or never really had and sometimes it's because we've just lost sight of what's really going to refresh us both as a couple and individually. Tune in for their wisdom, their specific tips for play and honoring story in marriage, and for a beautiful reconnection for you!
Join us as Christa talks with Caroline, a full out heart type 4 and Parker an optimistic 7 as they show us a piece of their lives and their 4-7 Beautiful Adventure Glow as well. It's so much fun to get inside of a couple's brain and heart and find out what makes them tick - together! After almost fifteen years of marriage, they've grown in learning how to love not only each other but the world together as they help hurting children across the world. Join this inspiring episode as you see just how deep love for others can run with two visionaries in a marriage!
Join Christa for pregnancy stories and tips, as well as Enneagram type by type trends. Ever wonder what the personality trends are during pregnancy? How your marriage will shift with a baby? This listener-requested episode was fun and fascinating to research. Tune in to hear the commonalities between types as well as the encouraging tips for getting through this difficult but tender and rewarding stage of life and marriage.
This podcast is an interview with Liza Carden, Enneagram 8 and business coach, who shares so many tips and tools for the 8-9 pairing. She explains how to help your 9 to feel heard and support your 8 to feel healthily vulnerable. Whatever your type, this episode will be a gift to many listeners who want to find their best compatibility as well as their own vibrancy in the world!
Christa talks with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. This may be a truly life-changing episode for individuals or couples dealing with the ongoing cycle of addiction and destructive sexual behaviors. Get ready to embrace the opportunity to let your past story teach you about what it is you're truly looking for in the act of every destructive cyclical behavior, as well as how to find freedom from its grasp.
Join us as Christa talks with Sears and Alisa Taylor on their surprising trek from fast-paced architecture life in the Windy City to farm-to-table life in Yuma AZ, where they homeschool their six kids and work out their version of happily ever after! Have you ever been told you’re good at guessing the types of others? Do you like hearing stories about couples who have gone the distance together? This episode is full of fun, family stories and forgiveness in marriage with clues to help you try to figure out the mystery. What are this couple's types?
Join Christa in talking to the assertive 3-7 heart and head Jet Set Enneagram Glow Pairing. When big dreams meet parent life, assertive personalities must shift in stride, as best as they can. They delve deep into parenting life, working through trauma together with EMDR, and most especially, learning how to titrate the combination of their personalities as they take on planning, pain, and positivity in marriage, for better and for worse!
Join Christa and find hope in understanding more about the process of working on your spouse or family member's addiction with critical relationship tools and research, from both inside and outside of the Enneagram world. Approaching addiction recovery in a family without grace can place an already vulnerable spouse and family right in the shame cycle. What they need most is the blueprint for both healthy attachment and healthy self-soothing. Listen in to learn all this and more!
Listen in as Christa talks with the Freemans, about how two Enneagram heart types, 2 and 3 work together to move past their type issues and conflict styles. You and your spouse are surely unique and when it comes to conflict, we've been learning that every type takes a different route. Learning yours and how to walk together without letting conflict get the best of you is key! The Freemans also co-wrote "The Argument Hangover" and have helped almost a million people find their way back to health with their huge hearts and great tools!
Join Christa as she talks with the posh peacemaker Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD of the world renowned @mylovethinks as she takes us through working on marriage conflict without drama. She shares not only the depths and rhythms of her 3-9 Enneagram Glow pairing but also the ways she's learned to walk with patience each season, and with as little drama as possible. Want both a drama-free marriage and the opportunity to work on conflict? Then listen in as Dr. Morgan and Christa talk about the early years, mid point, and the best long game strategy for your pairing, too!
Christa talks with Enneagram coach Brittany Thomas of Enneagram Explained as she shares not only about her 1-5 pairing Glow, but also about the harmonic groups. Learn about the blind spots and strengths of those in the competency group (1, 3, 5), the reactive group (4, 6, 8), and the positive outlook group (2, 7, 9) as well. Knowing you and your spouse’s harmonic group can help you deal with your marriage conflicts with more wisdom, patience, and love.
In this episode with the Maxey Co, Christa chats with Robby, 7sp and Morgan 1sp, to see how subtypes and gender cast a somewhat culturally different glow with a male 7 and female 1 in the mix. Learn exactly how the goodness of a body type can both ground and bring safety to a head type, while the head type brings self-compassionate and bigger dreams to the table. This couple is committed to bringing light and fun, yet vivid vulnerability as to what’s still in process, glowing and growing with grace.
Christa interviews Dave and Laura, the 2-9 Loving Hospitality Pairing, as they share the process of walking through their own loss and through their worldwide grief ministry GPS Hope, share specific tools and strategies to other families with loss. Child loss is something no one can prepare for fully nor can we full recover. However, support is not only possible but vital. This episode is full of just that for those who have walked this journey, as well as those supporting friends and family through it.
Join Christa to learn more about the Enneagram instincts of social, sexual, and self-preservation. When you're stressed, you either go within, find a friend or spouse to chat with, or you aim to get social support with your favorite crew! In relationships, sometimes our favorite ways of surviving don't exactly appeal to our partners. What's more, often we sabotage ourselves by isolating one or two of the ways to survive and completely repressing the other. Discover ways to soften your dominant instinct, to enliven your repressed one, and to join your spouse in balancing the best of it all!
Join Christa in a talk with trauma expert Glenda Reagan who shares ways to grow close and to heal past trauma both together and individually. Often in marriage, we bring our childhood wounds to the table in a way that carries on cycles, hurts our partners, and us too. Many times however, especially as we learn our Enneagram types, marriage can become a safe harbor for us to learn healthy vulnerability and attachment together. Listen in for tips, advice and also hear about her 2-5 Marriage Pairing.
Join Christa in this interview with Sheila Wray Gregoire, author of the new and vitally important book, "The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught And How to Uncover What God Intended." As an Enneagram 8, Sheila has been championing this important topic with courage and tenacity and helps couples trade in misguided sex narratives for truly intimate and passionate times together. She will share why your sex life may be out of sync. Or even why it's only pleasurable for one partner. They discuss the emotional and physical pain in this supposedly wonderful area for many couples, and how to heal and move forward with more pleasure and joy.
Listen in as Christa talks with Seth Studley, MA, LMFT and Melanie Studley, husband and wife team, and podcast hosts of the popular Anatomy of Marriage as they admit to experiencing the rough edges of real marriage and how they've grown since finding the Enneagram. Marriage issues cut deep to the heart and yet often it's uncomfortable to reveal ourselves at our vulnerable levels. Join us as we talk about Melanie's 8 wing almost taking over as Seth as a 9 fell asleep, and hear how the Enneagram has been offering even a trained therapist and his family a chance to wake up to the possibilities of who they can become as they grow - and glow - together!
Join Christa with husband-and-wife power couple Daniel and Christina Im, co-hosts of the popular Im Between Podcast to learn about how you can bring your personality type and subtypes healthily into raising a family. Perhaps just as importantly, how you can block the worst of your type and pairing from preventing growth and health in your family system. This double heart, assertive 3-3 pairing share about their life lessons as a truly dynamic duo, ultimately called to a narrative of true joy and strength they never could have imagined on their own.
Are you engaged, planning a wedding, or in the first few years of marriage? Have you been married for awhile but you're struggling to remember the "musts" of marriage? Join Christa (and late in the episode, a surprise guest!) in this fun and all-inclusive episode that goes into marriage "do's and don'ts," the "Big 3" areas (sex, finances, and communication), and of course, type by type tips for you as well!
Christa is joined by Mac Cazeau LMHC, therapist and researcher to discuss the Gottman method that preceded the Enneagram. This marriage research system called The Gottman Method would be a great tool alongside your Enneagram work to scale your marriage to new heights. This episode identifies key features of the research-based Gottman program for you to learn the basics, and the tips and tools to incorporate it into your marriage. In addition, Mac Cazeau, LMHC, who in addition to sharing the goal of relationship growth, also has the goal of eventually removing the stigma of therapy for people of color.
We are so honored to have the best-selling author of "The Road Back to You" and "The Path Between Us," Enneagram teacher Suzanne Stabile with us. Suzanne expertly teaches us relationship tips for every type and also offers us tips to help avoid typing our spouses. Suzanne has learned so much over the years, not only from her 2 & 9 marriage pairing with her husband Joe, but as an Enneagram teacher of over 25 years, bringing both her wisdom and a most welcome heart-centered perspective.
This Valentine's week, we have our first official Enneagram Glow story for you with Jared and Kate Shaughnessy, an Enneagram 8-3, "Unstoppable" couple sharing their powerful falling-in-love and maintaining love stories both! They share many practical tips about sexual intimacy, forgiveness, and personal growth. Get ready to learn how to be more intentionally and healthily passionate from this strong and assertive couple, as well as what it takes to humbly let down one's guard and to truly surrender as well!
Join Christa and Molly Owens, founder and CEO of Truity Psychometrics in a conversation about frequently seen types, pairings, and the most interesting Enneagram and relationship findings. Among the most frequent questions around the Enneagram world are those that revolve around relationship pairings. Though there’s no such thing as the "perfect type compatibility," there are indeed fascinating relationship trends. In fact, this January 2021, Truity conducted an 88,000 person relationship study to aid in Enneagram and relationship research and we're so grateful to share the results!
Join Christa with Penguin Random House authors Jackie Brewster, Enneagram 7 and Eve Annunziato, Enneagram 8 who have 7-3 and 8-5 relationships, respectively. You will hear about the holy idea of the Enneagram but also how we practically find soul care as we journey toward healthier life and relationship work. Eve and Jackie have carefully and prayerfully laid the groundwork for you as you learn and grow, in their beautiful new Enneagram devotional book, Hearing God Speak: A Fifty-Two Week Interactive Devotional. This episode goes behind the scenes with these vulnerable and yet strong women to see how God brought them on a greater adventure than they ever could have imagined!
Listen in as Christa discusses the need to balance our hearts, minds, and body instincts more than ever, especially in our current cultural climate. As anger brews in the world often for good reason, this MLK Day, we're taking time to process from a place of peaceful reintegration with our lost center's gifts, specifically the gift of the five senses and the body, especially considering our 8, 9, and 1 work. Don't miss out on ways to connect and to grow in family and marriage with healthy vulnerability, strength, and always, love.
Join Christa in finding the best routes to shift into health and love this season as individuals, in marriage, and type by type with Enneagram arrows as well. Learn how can you manage the massive levels of stress that we're dealing with right now as a culture. Also hear how you can help a spouse with their stress, as well as show patience and love for people who are different from you. Most importantly in these times, hear how you can stay afloat so you can best serve others despite the mounting stress in our world.
Find your type's passions and virtues as you listen to this episode and find out how you can integrate healthy and steady changes into your relationship. We know the our Enneagram passions all too well, they are the ego fixations and parts of our personality that we get stuck with all the time. Sometimes, however, we trick ourselves into thinking these maladaptive parts of ourselves will heal our deepest wounds individually and in marriage. However, instead, it is our type's virtue that will provide the steadying factor to soothe our weary souls. This is a must listen episode!
We said goodbye to 2020 and now we're saying a big healthy hello to 2021! Let's do it together with a challenge that helps us to create a healthy flow in our hearts, minds, and bodies this year, one that considers our angst and issues but is ultimately comprised of gratitude, thoughtfulness, and love. This special episode outlines steps to restore things that have been unintentionally lost in the busy, hard, and whirling 2020. Together we're moving forward intentionally so we can glow brightly as couples and individuals!
Listen in as Christa discusses the Enneagram thinking centers of the 5s, 6s, and 7s. The thinkers among us are equipped to shape the world with their innovating dreams that often become inspiring realities, sometimes even shaping the world abroad. However, for the people who are constantly dealing with an active brain, living in a family with others who are more heart or body-based can be a daunting challenge, to say the least. This episode covers our wise Fives, our brave Sixes, and our optimistic Sevens in depth. There are tips for dealing with the passions of each type in marriage and family for individuals and their partners, as well as fresh reminders for how to do one's own work for internal balance as we close out the year well together!
Join Christa and her precious Enneagram 4 daughter, Hannah in reminding us of ten ways we can embrace the both the beauty and the depths of this season. Whatever your Enneagram type, 2020 is throwing all of us for a loop this holiday. The ups and the downs can bring out grief, loneliness, and a lack of direction, and we've decided to give you a healthy roadmap. Don't forget ways you can connect with your people despite distance. Despite the business and strain this 2020, you're family is waiting for you to step in with love as you celebrate!
Heart types of the Enneagram have the unique gift of understanding others emotionally. As we open up our own hearts for learning from the feelings center with staff coach Melissa Thompson, Christa and Melissa take an honest view of how amidst caring for others, hearts types and others can unlearn codependency and learn to both protect and take care of themselves. Melissa offers tips for learning strong self-care and advocacy and how to give yourself grace as you so bravely fight for the emotions of others.
This special fun episode takes a long look at love and the Enneagram on the big screen this time with some holiday fun added in! Join Christa and Olivia (who is back as a long-awaited guest!) as they finish the debate/conversations about not only the The Office and Gilmore Girls love interests but also take up typing the A-listers hanging out in a much-beloved Christmas fav, "The Holiday." This episode brings lots of laughs, and lighter conversation to our listeners as you head into your day!
Join Christa in dissecting not only human and animal studies in terms of gender but a type by type journey of comparing Enneagram traits. Did you ever wonder what the differences are between males and females in personality? How about the types that are considered more masculine while others are called feminine types? Christa shares both your research as a community as well as reflects on couples and families she's worked with over the past two decades. Don't miss out on ways you can grow!
On part 2 of the Enneagram Glow series, Christa and Alaina listen to marriage and family therapist Michael Shahan, MA, LMFT, an Enneagram 9, talk not only about the way trauma can be healed in marriage but also particularly about how the popularly paired 1-9 couple can glow together. In this episode, we cover less of the research and development concept of the glow (see "Discovering Your Enneagram Glow: Part 1" for background) and more of the actual process of healing one another's deepest wounds and personal issues in marriage. We got emotional in this episode and we hope you do too as you continue to work on your relationship glow!
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Christa is joined by fellow creative Alaina Pompa, the artist and designer behind our new Enneagram Glow Guides as they introduce the concept, the contest, and talk about how very different their Type 7 marriages are! This podcast covers the fascinating way that in marriage we create a union that is something more than either of us was before. The glow is our fun way of describing how we don't just learn our partner's type but we actually take traits on! This means each type takes on a different shade, depending on their partner's type and how then they can share their unique couple glow.
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Every single Enneagram type in marriage struggles with conflict. When is anger right? When should we curb it? What do we do in marriage with our anger and what can we do when we're holding onto our rage or hurts? Join Christa for a discussion of strategically and compassionately sharing hurts and dealing with conflict and anger with every type. This is an episode you don't want to miss, Enneagram love aside!
Join Christa for an episode covering the realistic goals you can set for your holiday so you'll be blessed and able to give your very best to others! It's no secret that the holidays will be a bit different this year - and this on top of the fact that despite Hallmark movies, holidays and relationships aren't always a winning combo! Use these practical tips to make your holidays smoother, calmer, and more joyful!
You've probably heard of the counterphobic 6 but did you know that each of the Enneagram types has a countertype? Christa goes through each of the 9 types and discusses the countertype flowing in the other direction of the type's usual positioning. Different from the counter passion, the countertype involves wanting the same result but using a different defense mechanism to get there! Find encouragement and balance here, learning about your best and worst ways of being both alone and together.
During this festive Halloween week, join Christa for fun tips for every Enneagram type! This episode also covers tips directly from the R & R Marriage Method such as learning how manage sarcasm, finding one another's favorite styles of play, and learning to be light together on a regular basis even in this heavy season of 2020. This is also a great episode for contest fun as we do giveaways for the R & R Method and a Halloween mystery dinner game!
Join AnnMarie and Christa in a conversation about finding hope in a season of struggle, tips for those dealing with infertility, and the very special calling one often gets when they're asked to walk an unexpected road. Over a quarter of American families are affected by miscarriage and infant loss and almost as many have struggled with infertility yet it's a topic that's not often discussed in marriage and parenting circles with ease. Our guest on this extra special episode is AnnMarie Jones, mom of 3 and co-founder of Bridge A Life Adoption and Foster Care Ministry, and her story today as an Enneagram 2 is every bit as heartwarming as it is compelling.
In-law tensions in marriage are nothing new but when we butt heads or in this case, butt Enneagram types and subtypes, there are specific routes we can take for more healthy moves and interventions. Listen in as Christa shares tips and advice for those living both close and far away. She also incorporates research, and offers hope for even the most difficult and seemingly hopeless relationships.
Christa is joined by therapist and Enneagram 3 Alexandra Thompson, LMSW, owner of Cumberland Counseling Services for a conversation about growing as a church body and honoring even the most broken people. The Enneagram is infiltrating the church and that's no doubt a gift, since it offers a framework for connection across personalities. However, amidst the current "hustle" mentality of the church, there is great need to grow in caring for those with deep mental health struggles and addictions.
Listen in as Christa helps you to understand mental health struggles paralleling each Enneagram type at their most stressful levels. When you're trying to find a road map, or what is clinically called a treatment plan, it's important not to self-diagnose, but to go to a trained mental health professional for an assessment. This episode is a guide for whom Enneagram work may just not be enough at least initially. It is also a gentle reminder that it's OK to need extra support, medication or therapy when we have those darker seasons so we can get back on track with wonderful life goals and finding joy in the everyday!
Tune in to Christa's interview with therapist and Christian professor Dr. Camden Morgante, PsyD. as they talk all things sex therapy, purity culture, and of course, the Enneagram so you can enjoy the celebration of healthy intimacy together! As much as we want sexual intimacy to be amazing, sometimes we come into marriage with unintentional baggage in this area. Whether you're dealing with problems that occurred before your marriage began or you've had issues build up along the way, this episode will answer many of your questions!
Listen in as Christa discusses one of the most highly requested topics of Enneagram tritypes. Understand the importance of balancing the three intelligence centers, the head, the heart, and the body in your marriage and family life. Get ready to dig deep on some especially juicy soundbites as you learn to tell your narrative and to honor your own Tritype journey of health and healing!
Do you believe in love at first sight? Perhaps you locked eyes with your spouse and the rest is history. Others of you had more of a calculated, careful and pre-meditated love story and some are not yet with your future spouse. In this exciting episode, we're establishing not only the definition of love type by type, we're walking through finding joy inside and outside of a relationship.
Christa interviews a LMHC on her team, Craig Stratton, MA, an Enneagram 9 about the need to come to marriage knowledge from many different personality perspectives. We also hear his marriage story to his beautiful wife Mary Kay, another 9! Craig shares his heart for making sure others are heard, what therapy is really like, as well as the key moment of change occurring in marriage. Don’t miss this episode full of so many tips for healthy communication in marriage!
